Another Fucking Wedding

Gary's Loft

Well, Charles and I have finally found a reception site, Gary's Loft. It's more than we had budgeted -- $3,200 for a Sunday -- but then every space was more than we budgeted.

Gary's Loft is a huge, nicely designed penthouse (5,000 square feet on one floor, plus an additional floor for the ceremony) with funky thrift-shop furniture. Unlike a lot of places, we can choose our own caterer and do our own liquor, which is how we're planning to cut costs. It's in midtown--so it'll be easy for out-of-town guests to reach. It not only has air conditioning and heating (many sites don't) but a fancypants stereo system. And it's a least $1,000 cheaper than any other comparable loft we could find (not exactly a bargain but affordable under our budget).

Charles and I also just really liked Gary, who strikes us as a reliable, no-bullshit type. He said he'd even give us a finder's fee if we refer someone to him. Sooooo if any of you reading this are looking for an event space, kindly mention our names....

Affordable reception sites around New York

I write this with the full understanding that the only people who'd possibly be interested are the 1 in 100 looking for NYC wedding/event spaces (which wouldn't be so bad if we had 100 readers)...but hey, what can you do. I've spent so long researching receptions sites, I have to tell someone.

These places have two things in common: a) they're among the best deals we could find in the city and b) we've ruled them all out. The prices listed below are just for renting the space; food, tables, chairs, dishes, etc. usually aren't included.

WOMAN'S CLUB OF MAPLEWOOD
$900 (7 hours) + incidentals
Woman's Club of Maplewood
60 Woodland Road
Maplewood, NJ 07040
(973) 762-9119

A friend told me about this beautiful reception hall with a high, arched ceiling. Of the places we've looked at, this was the only one that was architecturally interesting. It has a small but nicely secluded outdoor space. And the hall can seat up to 180. I loved it and, for the size, it was by far the cheapest raw space we could find. (There's also an upstairs room that you can use for the ceremony but it's a bit dank, with old carpet sticking up in places.) Ultimately, we ruled this one out for geographic reasons. Though only 2-3 blocks from NJ Transit, it's too far from New York for out-of-town guests and for the old folks in Long Island.

QUEENS FARM MUSEUM
$800 for Barn Complex (four hours)

Another affordable place. We ended up not visiting this one because the indoor space can only seat 110 (we need at least 120), but friends say the orchard makes for a beautiful setting and that the barn is a nice, clean space. If we were doing something smaller we probably would have done it here.

BOHEMIAN HALL & BEER GARDEN
$1,000 for 4 hours (for the outdoor park/garden)

Our friends Joe and Anita got married in the Beer Gardens (after meeting at a Stay Free! party, I'll have you know....) and it was great, but for one thing: it rained like hell. Fortunately, they rented a tent that was much larger than they needed, but it was still a bit cold and damp and the tent alone was $5,000, making the affordable catering deal not so affordable. Still, I like the unpretentiousness and non-glitziness of the place. And the rental fee includes tables and benches (I think).

You must use the restaurant's food, but that too is a real bargain - as little as $8 per person (and it's not bad). Unfortunately, we want to do something kosher-friendly and this place is a bit too aggressively non-kosher. I think they even butter the sausage.

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UPDATE (11/11/05): And the winner is... Gary's Loft in Manhattan. We thought this was the nicest space large enough, for the best price.

WAH Center

The Williamsburg Art & Historical Center, located in the historic former Kings County Savings Bank building, is an excellent artists' space. For receptions, it offers a relatively low site fee - $1,800 for one floor, $2,800 for two (both large open spaces), and a convenient location. Unfortunately, it is completely unsuitable as a wedding hall.

When Carrie and I arrived, there was a rummage sale going on. My eyes focused on the ratty 1984(?) NYC Marathon T-shirt on a hanger near the door. So much for first impressions.

Inside it got progressively more disappointing. Broken windows, warped floors and no air conditioning. No elevator. And it was dirty. Really dirty. Can't-touch-the-bannister dirty. I figured that the least I could salvage out of our trip to Williamsburg was a quick stop in the bathroom. If anyone needed any more convincing that the WAH Center just wasn't going to work, the bathroom did it.

That bathroom is a death trap: immediately behind an inward-swinging door were six steps leading down to two stalls, and no handrail. Even the warning sign didn't prepare me for the vertigo from the extreme dropoff. At the base of Machu Picchu was a sink and two stalls. Without doors. That are arranged like stadium seating. There is more, but I can't go on.

These problems could potentially be cured by next fall. But, alas, the people running the WAH Center have owned the building for 10 years and need $750,000 just to fix the exterior. I don't see a bathroom ending up high on the renovation list.

Issue Project Room

For the past two weeks I've been researching reception sites with one guiding principle in mind: While our parents don't have to love the space, it can't make them cry.

And for that reason, Issue Project Room was out. The room is small - 1,000 sq feet - and up a flight of stairs, which wouldn't work for the over-70 crowd. (Both my parents are in their 70s, as are their friends.) Plus, it's situated just off the Gowanus Canal, which is kind of like an industrial swamp. While the environs surrounding the Canal don't always smell like sewage, the odds on a warm day aren't good... which isn't to say that the funkiness of the area doesn't have its own kind of charm. I like the Gowanus. I walk across it often when I'm out delivering magazines. But it would make my mother cry.

I mention the Issue Project Room only because it illustrates how disillusioned I've become with the whole reception-site-hunting process after only two weeks. I must have called or emailed every "affordable" site in the city and even those are out of our price range. So I dug up the Issue Project Room contact info.

The Room is a nonprofit organization serving local artists; my friend Kurt knew one of the guys and recommended the place when I was organizing a party last year. It doesn't come with any amenities -- no tables, chairs, linens, etc. We would just be renting the space, so I figured it'd be cheap. At the very least, Charles and I could have it as a fallback. So I sent an email asking for a price quote.

And the response? Cost for an evening rental: $3,000. When I expressed surprise, I was told that the cost includes "a large outdoor territory." In other words: a swamp. It includes a swamp.